Healing is a process…..it involves Faith, Planning, and Execution. Faith involves belief and prayer. Planning is the map to follow. Execution is the action.

The following are my thoughts on what is needed for a person to ask themselves at the doorway to health, especially if the illness is life-threatening. Here are some of the tools I would use:

1) I would ask myself, “Do I want to live?” Strange as it may seem, it may be surprising how people can lose the will to live.

2) During the healing process, I would be careful of any negative thoughts I was either taking in, or putting out. Energy is like breath…..the caliber and the content of that energy can make a vast difference.

3) You’re never too old. Can you believe that some people think that after a certain age they have no right to live? I recently overheard a conversation where a young teenager said to a man in his seventies, “Hey Pops, will you hurry up and die so there will be some money left for me for social security?” The elderly man replied, and rightfully so, “Up yours!”

4) I would tell the people I love that I love them. It’s just amazing how many of us never say I love you….we just assume that the other person knows. A friend of mine who was having surgery told me that his father came to visit, stuttered, and said, “If anything happens to you, I will stick my head in the oven!” That was the best way my friend’s father could say I love you. My friend replied from his hospital bed, “Dad, I love you too.” Upon hearing this his father said, “Son, men don’t say I love you to each other.”

5) I believe, overall, healing does not involve the physical…..it involves everything else. To heal, to want to live, involves drive and determination. The will to live rises beyond our bodies.

6) Last but not least, the soul and the mind must interlock and become one. The life force is the energy between the core, which is the soul, and the mind, that is the home of thought. The body is the shell that we use here on earth. For the body to heal, the energy between the soul and the mind must stay strong.

My final thought on all this is that miracles can happen. The unexplainable does occur, but it’s nice to give it a helping hand…….

To Life……
love, Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

The highway is the fast route to the destination of choice. As we cruise along the highway we look down and see the images of unique little towns that have their own kind of charm, in a blur. The highway is one of our express lanes through life….a road that increases the speed of time and distance.

Recently on a trip to London I discovered how important the difference is between the highway and the backroads. As many tourists love to visit the sights and sounds of England’s capitol, as I learned, the real charm of England lies on the backroads. A tour guide mentioned to me, “They all want to see Big Ben, and Buckingham Palace, but to really experience England and its people one has to take a trip about fifty miles outside of London….that’s where the magic begins.” I guess the same can be said for many USA cities. While each has its charm, the surrounding communities also have much to offer. In this society, where we seek out the highways, many keys to experiences and successes await us on the backroads.

Tom Scholz of the rock group Boston, is considered a little eccentric and off-the-cuff, but this former MIT graduate left his trademark on the sound of the guitar, and how music is recorded. Scholtz, you see, is one of those geniuses that refuses to take the highway of life…….he seeks out the end of the rainbow. As one band member mentioned in regard to Tom’s work ethic said, “Tom is one of those people who tries things a hundred different ways. He may fall flat on his face 98% of the time, but that 2% is where miracles occur.” Tom, I guess, rarely takes the highway.

In our lives we choose, many times, when searching out solutions, the highway, the road that everyone takes. And then, we wonder why we lose track of what it is we had set out to find. The backroads may not be the fastest route, but, because it is the road less taken, you may find treasure “in them there hills.” Yes, we too may not be successful 98% of the time, but, along the backroads we just may find that magical 2% that can change our lives.

Take the backroads,
love,
Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

I find it interesting that people who are successful in life always seem to have certain similarities. Success, most times, comes in three stages. The first stage is faith, planning, and hard work. The second stage is breaking through the walls, learning, and hard work. The third stage is momentum, connecting to what is needed, and hard work. At some point a strange thing starts to occur. Something I call, “The Current.”

What is The Current? It is a wave that builds over time, and eventually it lifts you up, carries you along, and helps you do things you never thought you could accomplish. Some of our greatest successes take place when The Current is in motion. The connection to The Current is within all of us…… all we have to do is to plug in, provide the necessary work, and lo and behold, something miraculous happens.

Athletes talk about “Being in The Zone,”….many, before they either start a race or play a game, just know they are going to succeed. It’s almost as if they already know the outcome. The Current is that powerful.
How does one get to The Current? Let’s put it this way…..when an airplane taxis down the runway, it builds up speed and takes off. At first, it experiences turbulence, but at a certain altitude, it enters cruise level….that’s where, once airborne, The Current takes over. We, too, seek to be airborne in life. The place where our wings can soar through the air.
Religions have talked about this Current through the centuries, using different metaphors and phrases. To Christians, it is the Lord Jesus Christ. To Jews, it is God. To Muslims, it is Allah. To Buddhists, it is Buddha….. many mentioning a sense of what we put out, comes back in one form or another.

Perhaps The Current provides the energy for what we have projected. There is something very mysterious about this place called Earth. Probably, there is more we have to understand than what we know. Mystery is all around us. Maybe if we understood the tools that are available to us, and how to implement them, life would not look so complicated. I believe there is a purpose for us being here, and The Current is there to provide knowledge and motion.

So flows the current,
love,
Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

Can you believe there are New Yorkers who have never visited the Statue of Liberty? I’m one of them. The closest I’ve come to Lady Liberty is a ride on the Staten Island Ferry. Hopefully, I can rectify that this year. Many of us believe that the sights are all outside of our range……there’s nothing in our own world, and we have to travel to someone else’s. Nothing could be further from the truth.

We walk around our towns, walk past places of great beauty, sometimes without even batting an eyelash, taking it all for granted, and thinking that it’s nothing special, until a relative or a friend comes to visit, stops us in our tracks, and points out the wonder under our own noses.

Movies are full of famous cities of the world, leaving many with a feeling that their town doesn’t quite measure up. Each place has its own character…we just have to recognize it. It could be a small museum, regional theater, a local store, or, a place of Worship. Priceless memories are available if we only open our eyes.

Each week I try to write down something special about my town in upstate New York. Near me is Hyde Park, the home of President Roosevelt, and the Culinary Institute, a school where some of the best chefs in the world are trained. Also near me is West Point Military Academy, with halls of history. I have tried to not forget what is available for me to see and discover in my own neck of the woods. It’s not been easy….I too take things for granted. So try this week to sit down and write what is special about your town or area. Why does it always have to be that strangers sometimes see things before us? No town is too small…..they may not appear in the latest hit movie, but they are not diminished in any way of their importance.

I recently had a conversation with a man who runs the concessions for minor league baseball teams of the Chicago White Sox through the South. He said to me, “You would not believe how important minor league ball is to some communities. The whole town comes out on Saturday night and cheers and hollers as if it’s a World Series game. There’s never an empty seat in the house.” Broadway producers encourage the development of regional theaters, so that they can look for the next hit play. Towns matter…..they contribute on a grass roots level, that one day rises to center stage. I’m sure you have your own stories of how someone came out of your town or area and went on to touch the world. Each person and each town contributes…we all just have to notice.

Enjoy your town,
love, Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

From the day we are born we take in information. We develop, we mature, and hopefully, find out over time what works and what doesn’t work for us. The Trance is a state of mind we fall into when we are doing something that we consider mundane. It could be licking five hundred stamps on letters, hammering nail after nail, or spacing out during a boring book. Sadly, The Trance eats up valuable time.

Recently I had a conversation with a friend who told me a story about The Trance. Joe used to leave his house at the same time each morning, stop in at the coffee shop and head off to work and do the same process in reverse at the end of the day. Joe said, “Jennifer, it’s really strange. When I open the door and head off to work the time in-between is a blur. Each day that blur becomes wider. Strangely, one day the train went out of service. I snapped to, and boarded another train and resumed the blur. This is all fine and dandy Jennifer, but I’ve done this for 18 years.” The Trance can get a hold of us…..not only take away time, but devalue our moments.

Perhaps Life gets so overwhelming sometimes, that there is only so much that we can take, so we “zone out.” But that zoning out can be costly. Oddly, during periods of crisis or turmoil, The Trance disappears, and all of a sudden we feel more alive. Why is that? Do we take Life so much for granted that only when it is threatened, do we feel more alive?

I look at The Trance as a virus. Something that anybody can catch. Is there a cure? Sure…..it’s called Awareness. Whenever one sees or feels the Trance coming on, think about what you want to accomplish that day. Flood your mind with as much positive thought as possible. For me, one of the best ways I keep away The Trance is to change my schedule and try to get away once in a while. When we are busy, it’s one thing……but The Trance is something entirely different. To find out if you have had The Trance, or currently have it, ask yourself this: How quick has the past ten years gone by? and, do many moments stand out? For some yes, for some no. Think forward of the next five years, and try to accumulate memories that will last a lifetime. The Trance can never invade the shield of awareness.

Keep awake,
love, Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

Sometimes we totally underestimate the influence we have on someone’s life. We forget that our words and actions are being watched and absorbed by others. Members of our family, friends, and yes, pets, see us at different times during the day, and react to what they think we are saying or doing.
The more we are aware of the position we have in certain people’s lives, hopefully the more responsible we become. A child at the dinner table watches what we eat, how we eat, how we behave, and what we do once we finish the meal. After a few weeks it’s not uncommon to look across the dining room table at a child mimicking every move we make.

The same can be said for friends. We influence them, they influence us. During the week we receive a phone call from a friend in need…..asking us, “What do you think I should do?” It’s at these points we see the scope of how our contributions can have an impact on someone else’s life.

Our pets….my my…..do they watch us! They know when we eat, what we eat, what we like to watch on television, what time we get up, what time we go to bed. For me, I sometimes catch my little dogs having a powwow, wondering what concoction I may cook up for dinner that night. Dogs sometimes can be the worst food critics….if the chow is not “up to par,” you will be notified!! But seriously, the circle of love that can evolve in a relationship with a pet can be priceless.

We constantly underestimate what we give to others. It’s easy to forget in our busy lives the impact our words and action have, but, they do. The more we are aware of this, the better we are for ourselves, and for others. There is not a part of the day where we can’t contribute something worthwhile, be it at the office, at home, or during recreation. We underestimate our power. We all make a difference…..even when we don’t think we do.

Life is a shared experience,

love, Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

How many of us out there use certain phrases to explain a bad day? For example: “I got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning,” “Somebody rubbed me the wrong way,” or, “Nothing ever goes right for me on a Monday.” Perhaps if we dig a little deeper there could be an explanation why things don’t always turn out the way we want them to. Can we control everything? Of course not, but maybe we can tilt the odds a little bit more in our favor.

Every day certain things happen to us that cause a reaction, or a trigger mechanism. The trigger is activated, and we in turn respond accordingly. For example: I could head into work around nine in the morning and be reminded that there was a report that I had to get done by eleven. As eleven drew closer, my hands could start to sweat, my blood pressure could rise, and before too long I could start getting flashbacks of other times that I was in stressful positions. After a while, if I didn’t step back and calm myself down, for sure my imagination would kick in and lo and behold, I may even believe that it was impossible for me to get the project done in time. The trigger of fear and insecurity could make me blow the whole thing out of proportion. Isn’t it strange how little tasks in life can easily be blown into a life and death feeling situation?

So how do we deal with these so-called triggers? Maybe by creating a few new ones. How about this…….in the morning we write down several phrases that we can look at during the course of the day that can evoke pleasant memories or feelings. A friend of mine recently mentioned to me how he keeps up good feelings in his life by focusing in on the release of his favorite CD’s. If Paul McCartney is planning to put out a new release in the summer, my friend accumulates various articles about the forthcoming album, and whenever he is having a bad day, he turns to those articles. Since he is a huge Beatle fan, a flood of wonderful memories fills his mind and he is instantaneously lifted up. I personally find browsing through artistic books, like one that I have on my coffeetable at the moment on artists’s homes in Ireland, inspiring. For me, it’s a great way to chase away the blues in a rainy moment. We can create triggers that can spring forth antidotes against negativity.

So why not give it a try…….think to yourself, what can be your personal positive mood enhancers for the day? I find for me it can make stressful situations easier to handle. Many days are based on perspective…..two people can look at the same event and come away with different viewpoints. Triggers may not overcome all our problems for the day, but they can tilt the ones on the fences in our favor.

Tilt the moment,

love, Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

This past week folks around the world have had a lot to contend with. Bad weather, shaky financial markets, mad cow and hoof and mouth disease, to name a few. These are strange times…..but I am a positive person…I believe all this will pass and we will come out of it a stronger people. It used to be problems like these were some else’s…..now, they are ours. Should we pretend that “everything is wonderful, and nothing is wrong?” of course not….by doing that, no solutions would be found. I love life, and I highly respect people, no matter where they live. As a result of this newsletter that reaches 65 countries, I feel their joy and pain.

So what do we do to help solve some of these problems? One way would be to develop solutions that, over the long term, will strengthen us, and help us to better prepare if these things happen again. In terms of mad cow, little is known, but stay informed to better prepare your family. The stock market? That’s a beast unto itself. Manipulation, upgrades, downgrades, selling one sector into another. One thing I’m fairly confident of is that good companies with good management emerge stronger and bolder from downturns in the economy. I’m a true believer that long term investing in good companies is the only way to go. I learned this from my beloved Grandmother….bless her soul.

I would like to share with you a little story that shows humanity at its best. In 1977 New York City had a major blackout. At around 8pm, all of the lights in the city went dark. At first, panic was everywhere…..people were stranded in elevators, walking along the streets trying to find their way…..many could not get home. Then after about half an hour, something extraordinary happened……people started reaching out their hands to neighbors, in a time of need. I was driving along in my car through Manhattan….there were no streetlights, but there were people at every corner with flashlights directing traffic, so that the traffic could continue to flow safely. Strangers to this day….I have no idea who they were, but they cared enough to come out of their apartments to direct the traffic for FREE. Nobody mentioned, “What do I get out of this? How much will I get paid? Why should I care?” They just did it, because somewhere inside each and every one of us, no matter how deep you go, somewhere lurking down there, is Compassion and Love. This blackout lasted until early the next morning. The news reported that many stayed up all night to help others. Sure there was some looting, but overall we knew we were “all in this together.” Kind of like now.

There will always be obstacles in life. One thing I always try to remember, to try to be as kind, compassionate, caring and loving as possible. These are the things I believe can get one through tough times. In the air there is a sense of despair……but each day can bring a new breeze to blow fresh ideas that spring forth seeds of hope. The right breeze can blow the clouds away and deliver tomorrow’s rainbow.

May the good winds blow,

love, Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

Each day seems to bring its own set of problems. Now, all of them cannot be the same, but isn’t it strange how many times we look at them with the same level of importance? I too find myself sometimes reacting to each problem as a monumental task, when if only I took a few steps back and saw how temporary and simple that problem really is.

Every few weeks, a relative of mine meets with me for lunch. We talk over the stories of the day and what’s going on in our lives. Halfway through our conversation we suddenly look at each other and just start laughing……she says to me, “Can you believe how we overblow things?” and I respond, “I know what you mean! Everything is not life and death, but if anybody overheard us, they would think we were real worrywarts!” Some things are important….. but, are there dustballs under the beds, really a matter of seriousness? Or, is the fact that you let your toenails get a little too long this month, a personal catastrophe? Perhaps that day it may be an event, but a week or two later, maybe not.

If all we do is judge each problem or chore on an equal level, it’s very easy to understand how exhausting it can become. We plow through the week and by Friday we are suffering from burnout. Why? Was everything that important? Did a worry about the mundane expand us? How much energy could we have applied to the things that were important?

These days I try to keep things in perspective as much as I can. Every Sunday night I look over the coming week and write down what I must do and what I plan to accomplish. Come Wednesday I always notice that additions are made, but overall it helps me be prepared for surprises that always seem to arise at unexpected moments. Doing this helps me keep my head on my shoulders. Like everyone else, I too have a lot on my plate. Still, a mountain is a mountain, and a molehill is a molehill, and never shall the two meet…….one is tall, one is small, and so too is each problem.

Observe the landscape,

Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon

We go about our daily lives with, in most cases, blinders on, to get through. We only let in a certain amount of information that comes towards us, because we have jobs and chores to do. Think of all the sounds we would actually hear if we were walking down a city street and focused just on hearing sounds…..or if we did the same thing in the countryside. It is in these moments that we become aware just how much we “tune out,” in order to function daily.

We underestimate how much we can handle, and often see ourselves as limited in our capabilities…..when in reality we were “designed” by God to be able to see, hear, breathe, pump blood, move muscles, talk, think and imagine, all at once. Pretty amazing, right? We are living miracles, and most of the time we don’t even give it a passing thought.

While we are functioning at many levels, we are existing on a globe that is spinning through space…..gravity keeping us “earthbound.” How many times do we look up at the sky and notice the stars or the moon, and realize that we are not only family members of a planet, but Citizens of a Universe? Our earth is not disconnected from any of the other planets….it functions similarly to Venus, Jupiter, Mars, etc., throughout the solar system. Yet we often feel that we are alone here on our globe, limited in our capacities, just “wheels in a cog.” Yes, we are wheels in a cog, in a sense, but look at the scope of the wheel!!!! It encompasses an entire Universe.

To accept that we are Citizens of the Universe, is to accept that we are all part of a huge system…..a system which is bound together by a certain Love and Logic. I call it God……others may have different terms for it. Science tries to break it all into mathematics…..yes, math is definitely involved, which is where some of the logic comes into play, but to explain the beauty of the interlocking parts, I believe we have to go beyond math and science, and rejoice in the Miracle.

The next time you feel hassled by the routines of life, pause and try to get near a window where you can scan the sky with your eyes…..or sit in a chair and listen to your breathing, or look at a photo of someone you love deeply. These things will remind you of the fact that you are part of a much Bigger Picture…..a Member and Citizen of the Universe, with a passport given to you at birth. You are awarded a visa everytime you remember this………

Enjoy the journey,
love, Jennifer Avalon
© 2001 Jennifer Avalon