The way we look at people is very much influenced by our upbringing and role models. We seem to have quite a few preconceived ideas at formulating and predicting who people are and how they will affect our lives. Bad experiences tend to leave unpleasant memories and enjoyable experiences leave us with memories that warm the heart. Life can get confusing at times…it’s very easy to mistake what’s good as bad, and what’s bad as good. Ultimately we must find ways to develop detours around these, in some cases, damaged perceptions of our minds.

It may sound a little strange, but sometimes we have to trick our minds in order to open the pathways to true perception. One way to do this is to look at people as liquids. Example, if you meet somebody for the first time, look at them…what kind of liquid, meaning flavor, color, and fragrance do they have to you? It becomes very interesting when we look at people as liquids because you are using forms of sensory perception you don’t normally use. Most of the time when we meet people we observe what they’re wearing, their hairstyle and sexual appeal, etc……generally surface input. These things rarely show who the person truly is…the “essence” of who they are. Just because somebody doesn’t know how to color-coordinate their clothing doesn’t mean they’re stupid…it’s just something they didn’t learn or it wasn’t important to them. What matters here is who do we allow to enter into our lives on a long-term basis. I recently read an article that mentioned that up to ninety percent of your happiness can be based on who you choose as a mate. As you can imagine, these relationships have a profound affect on our lives. If you meet someone and see them as a liquid that has a metallic, bitter taste, and then you meet another person who you see as a liquid that flows like a clear mountain stream, which person would you prefer to spend time with?

Whether we care to admit it or not, most of the power that we have in our lives we freely give away. The more you “take the bull by the horns” the more responsibility you assume over your life. Many of the articles I write are written as a way to empower people to take control and take back their lives. When what we’re doing doesn’t work, we must seek out other ways around life’s roadblocks. In this case, seeing people as liquids.

We all have a say in how our lives turn out, but that can only happen when we’re in the driver’s seat. By all means, have God as your co-pilot. But God has given us the power of Free Will for a reason, to develop our own families, relationships and lives. Isn’t it interesting that so much of our bodies are made up of liquid?

Let the river flow,

Jennifer Avalon
© 1998 Jennifer Avalon