We all believe we have the “patent on pain,”….nobody truly feels the way we do. We walk around town looking at the sea of faces, and we think to ourselves “If you only knew what I’m going through,” when really there could be quite a few people worse off than us. Why do we always feel so separated from the rest of humanity, feeling that nobody else goes through what we go through, when in fact pain is pain, joy is joy, and somewhere in-between is where we live?
Recently Beatle Paul McCartney lost his wife Linda to cancer. A friend said to Paul shortly after Linda’s death, “Is there anything I can do to help you?” Paul’s answer was “Bring her back.” Here is one of the richest men in the world, having to come to grips with loss and pain, and I’m sure Paul would gladly trade every dime he’s ever made to bring his beloved Linda back. We are born, and all around us are people who are also born and eventually die….and as we travel along the road of life circumstances push and pull at us in all directions. At some point we get a grip of some of the mystery of life.
Doctors, lawyers, secretaries, electricians, plumbers etc….we all rise each morning doing our work, hoping for a better day. The Family of Man, looking at its differences, when all the while the strengths are in their similarities. When you hurt, reach out…there are others too who have felt the same way you do. When you feel great happiness, share it…because the pendulum swings both ways. You see, we really are a family on this planet with much in common….sharing all the pain and all the joy. Is the grass truly greener on the other side? A wise man once said, “There can be no measure for pain no matter what the walk of life.”
Mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, neighbors down the street….the voice half a world away….we all juggle the intricacies of life daily. We all feel others don’t understand us, but we may be surprised. So is the grass always greener? or is it just a false perception of someone else’s life. Hey, even Bill Gates has a bad hair day once in awhile and has to go to the dentist!!!
Tend your garden,
love, Jennifer Avalon
Â© 1999 Jennifer Avalon