One of the hardest, most difficult, and sometimes frustrating things that we have to do in life is make decisions. Where do we live? Where do we work? Who do we marry? What do we name our children? Etc. These are choices that have a profound affect on our lives. It’s almost never easy, but to not make the choices can pass the decision to someone else. When that happens, the control we have over our own lives diminishes.
One way to tackle decisions is to seek out as much information about the subject as possible. Scoop it up and lay it out on the table. Look at all the angles, and choices, and then start a process of elimination. Ask yourself, what don’t I want? And as the rejections mount, what’s eventually left will be a choice between one and three solutions. Yes, a process of elimination. Decisions are good things….it forces us to look at our future, and sometimes examine what we don’t want to grapple with. Decisions can affect us directly or indirectly, and of course, other people’s decisions can affect us too. But for us, most of the time, it’s hard enough to handle the decisions we personally have to make. We can seek out different points of view, pray for guidance, but eventually the decision lays in our own hands.
Here in the United States we are now heading into the full scope of the election season, where many citizens will be voting for candidates at the national, state, and local level. Over the next few months we will hear comments made on all different points of view, in regard to who are the best candidates. As in life, making these decisions can also be extremely difficult. As before, place all of your information on the table from the candidates, and ask, Who best represents me and my family? A wise person once said, “If you don’t vote, don’t complain.”
Decisions stay with us until the day we die. At each stage in our lives comes a new set of choices. Each time, spread them out….take a consensus of your feelings, and decide. You decide….not the guy down the street, not the woman around the corner….you. We are responsible for our lives….it rests on us to decide what’s best in our lives. There are so many things out there that we don’t have any control over, that when the times arise that give us a chance to choose, we should welcome it, not fear it.
love, Jennifer Avalon
Â© 2000 Jennifer Avalon